As I shared in earlier posts, after some time where bedtime was always a struggle, we did a very light version of sleep training and it worked miracles for us. However, although bedtime was much better and without any crying, the bichin kept waking up really early and after some 5am waking we were a bit done with it. During the same week as we had those 5am morning, I did some bingewatching of one of my obsessions on Netflix and in this series, quite some sleep problems with toddlers were discussed as well. And that´s when I realized the two mistakes we had been making here.
- Getting up too early
When we heard the smallest cry during the night, we used to jump up and go to check on him with the idea that if we would be there quickly he maybe wouldn´t completely wake up. However, a lot of times, the reason he would actually wake up was us, the light / noise / door opening and that little cry was just in his sleep. So now we force ourselves to hold a bit and only go in if he really wakes up and cries. And, a lot of times we don´t actually have to go in.
- Treating an early morning waking as a MORNING waking
We used to treat his early morning waking as a MORNING waking, but after some Jo Frost wisdom, we realized we should treat them as a NIGHT waking. Instead of taking him to our bed hoping that he would maybe sleep another hour with us and thereby only reinforce the idea that it was morning (even if it was 4.30 or 5am), we should act the same as we would do in a night waking. E.g. go in, check if he is all right or needs something (9 out of 10 times he can´t find his lovey or his dummy) and leave again. We agreed on a time that would be our earliest morning time (in our case 6am, because, he is still a tiny human so we shouldn´t expect too much either) and before this time he has to stay in his crib. He can be crying or not sleeping, but he doesn´t get out before 6am.
Just with these two little mindset changes, we have been getting up at 7am the last mornings! That´s a win in my book! (Now let´s just hope I don´t jinx it with blogging about it)
What mistakes did you make with sleep training?
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