In a few days the bichin will be turning 1 year old, so with that comes the inevitable question of how to celebrate his birthday. Is his first birthday a special day? Obviously! Do I have to restrain myself to not use this as an excuse to go crazy buying stuff for him? Definitely! But will his birthday be the celebration of the year in our casa? No, definitely not.
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With the first birthday of a baby (who will soon not be a baby anymore but a toddler!) a lot of people tend to think this needs to be celebrated big time. So every possible effort is being made to making this a very special day. We rent a space somewhere in town, we order a huge decorated cake with Disney figures on it (or two actually, so one can be used by the birthday girl or guy to mash it!), we invite our families, our frien ds and basically everyone we know with kids, we rent an air castle, we hire a professional photographer to do a cake mash shoot, we invite a clown or a wizard to entertain the kids for a while, we spend a fortune on the decoration for that space we rented, we make goodie bags for the guests to take home, ….. And the list can go on and on.
Whose birthday party is it actually?
But, who are we doing this all for? For our son or daughter right? It´s his or her first birthday, the first time we can celebrate this, we need to do something special. Well, newsflash, I don´t think our sons and daughters really NEED such a party to be able to have a special first birthday. Nor that they care (sorry!). Apart from the fact that they probably don´t know what a birthday is, what does a kid need to have a nice day? All those bells and whistles? I don´t think so. Don´t you think he or she will at least enjoy as much in your own house or in the garden playing with cousins / some friends with the gifts and trying some cake for the first time? I bet they will. (And with cake I mean a simple plum cake. In Spain, parents would probably get a heart attack if they hear you give 1 year olds cake with chocolate or lots of sugary decoration. Besides, the kid would probably get in some kind of sugar hyper after eating all that, will he really enjoy the huge party?!)
So if it´s not for our kids, who are we throwing these huge parties for? Yep, for ourselves. Because we think that´s what we´re supposed to or because we feel we need to go all in for our little prince(ss), they will only turn 1 once right? And that´s completely fine, if you want to have such a party and feel good about it, go for it! But please don´t pretend we do it for our kids, because they don´t know any better and will enjoy a simple special day just as much.
So our plans for next Saturday? A small celebration in the morning at
home with some family and then we´re off to the beach in Valencia, his first time at the beach, how´s that for a special first birthday?
How did you celebrate your kid´s first birthday?
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