After becoming a mom, a lot changes in your life. A. LOT. And most people realize that however, there are some things that only fellow moms will understand and nobody else.
The first weeks after the bichin was born, we obviously lived in a haze. He was definitely not one of those unicorn babies that just slept the whole time and after a few nights with very few sleep we just changed into zombies with dark circles until under our knees. The lack of sleep, the breastfeeding that didn´t really work resulting in me feeding him for hours with only an hour break in between (also during the night), the fact that he didn´t gain enough weight, not knowing why he was crying this time… being a new mom is freaking hard! But then in those first weeks, some other mom will tell you that it will get better, around 6-8 weeks it will all get better, you will find some kind of rhythm and he will sleep better etc. So, despite being completely sleep deprived and wondering whether you´re going insane, you know there is light at the end of the tunnel because it will all get better in a few weeks, right?
Becoming a parent is probably one of the most life-changing experiences one can have. Literally EVERYTHING changes and your life won´t be the same anymore (for good and for bad). No matter how many books you read (we probably all know “what to expect” but my all-time favourite is this one , too bad it´s for the dads!) or with how many friends you talk, there are certain things you will only realize after becoming a mom.
Dear single mom,
I have always had this special admiration for you for doing most of this motherhood thingy alone, but this month that admiration went to a whole new level. Let´s face it, being a mom can be freaking hard and I really had to adjust to this new life but I did have someone to share the load with. You probably didn´t, single mom.
A few months after the bichin was born someone gave me a (Dutch) book called “This is the book for parents with a life” (Dit is het boek voor ouders met een leven) which in a brutally honest and direct way describes how radically your life is going to change. Boy, I wished I had read this before becoming a mom!