After becoming a mom, a lot changes in your life. A. LOT. And most people realize that however, there are some things that only fellow moms will understand and nobody else.
The first weeks after the bichin was born, we obviously lived in a haze. He was definitely not one of those unicorn babies that just slept the whole time and after a few nights with very few sleep we just changed into zombies with dark circles until under our knees. The lack of sleep, the breastfeeding that didn´t really work resulting in me feeding him for hours with only an hour break in between (also during the night), the fact that he didn´t gain enough weight, not knowing why he was crying this time… being a new mom is freaking hard! But then in those first weeks, some other mom will tell you that it will get better, around 6-8 weeks it will all get better, you will find some kind of rhythm and he will sleep better etc. So, despite being completely sleep deprived and wondering whether you´re going insane, you know there is light at the end of the tunnel because it will all get better in a few weeks, right?
I know that after turning 1 your baby technically is a toddler, but seriously, I didn´t know that my baby (or should I say toddler now?) also knew that cross-over date. From the moment he turned 1, it is as if he has been literally reprogrammed and got his wires reset to “toddler stage”. So no easing in for this mama, one day I had a cute, little baby to snuggle with, the next morning I wake up and I have a ranting toddler (and don´t be mistaken by the looks, he might still look as cute as always but inside turns out there´s a little manipulator as well).
Now that the bichin turned 1 in July we thought it was time to find a daycare as well for the times that we are working. Grandparents are obviously nice but something with interaction with other kids, playing together, and, especially, not getting incredibly spoiled were decisive factors for us. Yes, I know that grandparents spoil their grandkids per definition, that is kind of part of their job description, but if my dear bichini spends 3 or 4 afternoons a week at his Spanish grandparents the whole spoiling thing could be a little less in my mind.
After you survived those first crazy months with a newborn, you think things are finally falling into place and you´ve found your flow as a mom. You have established some sort of routine with meals and naptime, the baby starts to entertain him/herself for 10minutes so you can quickly unload the dishwasher and sleeping through the night is almost a real concept in your household. Well, enjoy this happy I-got-this-feeling for as long as it lasts because, sorry for the newsflash, it won´t last long. Before you know it you will be entering the toddler phase which brings a new whole type of chaos to your house.