What always surprises me about Spanish mothers (and especially also grandmothers!) is the amount of screaming that happens during a day. I always associated screaming with panic or stress situations but here it seems to be a normal way of communicating with your offspring.
Our neighbor is probably the most extreme example, she lives in the flat below ours but on most of the days I am home I feel like she lives in our flat and is screaming right next to me to her grandchildren. The grandchildren that live across the street so if they´re not in the same building she just opens the window and screams outside until somebody opens a window and then they continue their screaming conversation across the street. And it´s not like she´s an angry woman if you see her you wouldn´t expect that so much noise can come from such a tiny lady! She seems always very nice, upbeat and with a lot of energy (maybe too much energy and she needs to get that out screaming?).
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I don´t know if it´s the Mediterranean temperament but whether it´s in the play garden, in the park or in the pool, the accepted form of communicating is to scream from a distance at each other. If an incident happens for example at the pool, the mom would stay at her towel or on the side of the pool and screams to her kid(s) what they can´t do. Typically, the kid would scream back and if, after screaming back and forth for a few times, the behavior doesn´t change the mother would finally go to the kid to tell them from close what he or she can´t do (“and otherwise”, now that I think about it there´s quite some “if you don´t behave now, we won´t go back to the pool / you won´t get an ice cream” parenting here) but since they were already screaming this talking to each other from close obviously continues at the same decibel level.
Screaming makes it into a stress situation
When the mother (or grandmother) screams to her kids, how do you think they will answer? Right, screaming as well. Also, even if they´re “talking” about something normal it immediately seems like there´s anger involved.
So yeah, not really my preferred way of talking to the bichin. Also, I don´t need the whole world to know what I am saying to him!
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