A lot of times people ask me “how do you do it?” referring to the combination work, the bichin, writing a bit, cvandgo… This question always reminds me of the movie “I don´t know how she does it” and for a split second I allow myself to pretend that I am like Sarah Jessica Parker with her hotshot job in those cute little suits running around to manage home, work and kids on super high heels. But after that nano second I realize I might have the puking stains on my clothes but I don´t have a hotshot job, am not constantly on business trips, and am too lazy to wear tight skirts and high heels to even go to the office (let alone run around from office to schools and to end the day with a round of honor in the house).
But honestly, for me the question “how do you do it?” is not for the Sarah Jessica Parker ´s amongst us but is more appropriate for the SAHMs because for me going to the office is almost like a little holiday. Before having the bichin I was tired after long days at work, nowadays I am much more tired after a day off or the weekend! Don´t get me wrong, it is great to spend a day with the bichin at home but it´s also more than a full-time job to be alone with him and take care of the entertaining, food, bathing, naps, walks, trying to squeeze in the unending laundry pile, and if you´re lucky finding some time to take a shower and get some food yourself as well. When he is finally in bed at 7pm I basically pass out on the couch with a bar of chocolate and Grey´s Anatomy.
A little getaway
For a day in the office it´s not luck that determines whether I get properly dressed and showered that day, it´s a pure necessity. Then in the train for the commute to work I get to read or write some posts without getting interrupted once (ok maybe once by the steward asking if I need a complimentary headset, ehmm no thanks as you can see I had to take my own headset out to understand your question). In
the office I can take a proper breakfast / lunch / cup of tea when getting something done, can do my work with both hands (no baby on the hip) and have some grown-up conversations. And no matter how busy my days get, I am never as exhausted as on Wednesdays, my day off with the bichin.
Despite of really enjoying some quality time with him on the floor, I am not sure if I could do that five days a week (or actually I am pretty sure I am not the best candidate for that). So my question would be for the SAHMs, “how do you do it?”
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