It´s so easy to get-up and jump straight into the daily chaos: preparing breakfast for the family, checking your work email, getting dressed and running out to work. We all want to take some time to start the day peacefully but hey, who has the time? Nobody right? In the 6am club I wrote about how I used to have this hour every morning to start my day well (planning my day, some sports, some reflection time) but since having the bichin, that´s just a utopia so it´s normally just facing the day head-on. Still, there is one tiny element of this 6am ritual that I still manage to preserve, but only because it just takes 5minutes.
A few months after the bichin was born someone gave me a (Dutch) book called “This is the book for parents with a life” (Dit is het boek voor ouders met een leven) which in a brutally honest and direct way describes how radically your life is going to change. Boy, I wished I had read this before becoming a mom!
Dear you with all your experience,
Yes, this is my first child so everything is new for me and I don´t have any experience. Yes, even after 11 months I am still new to this motherhood thingy and indeed the job description of this gig is not easy. Yes, I am the first of my closest friends who became a mother so I haven´t had much best practice sharing with a glass of wine yet. But does that mean I don´t know what I am doing? Well, probably it does, because honestly I just do something and as long as it feels good I am happy. But what it definitely doesn´t mean is that you know how I should raise my kid just because you have “experience”.
Before having the bichin I used to read a lot about how to develop yourself further, how to be more productive and leadership, I have read many and many books on these topics but some of my all-time favorites were (or I should probably say “are”) Robin Sharma´s The Leader Who Had No Title and Hal Elrod´s The Miracle Morning . What all of these books have in common is that successful people get up very early to start the day well. So the idea is that if you get up before most people get up you can take some time for preparing the day to come, reflection, meditation, some physical activity and a good breakfast. This approach is also often called “the 6am club” (or some even do the 5am club but that was a bit too much for me) and before the bichin was born I tried to start my mornings with the 6am club. But, since being a mom I have to say that I am not a voluntary member of the club anymore. If only the bichin wasn´t a member either…
The last years there´s quite some noise on the “dangers” of having a sedentary job without much movement for the entire day. Apparently sitting down for hours a day has really negative impacts on our health even if we go to the gym every day. In extreme cases, sitting is called the smoking of our generation. Auch! So yeah, you thought you did a good job by busting your ass of in the gym a few times a week and squeezing in some runs but apparently that office chair will defeat it all. Add to the mix that after being a mom that gym + running a few times a week might have changed into a few times per decade and I am basically screwed.