Dear you with all your experience,
Yes, this is my first child so everything is new for me and I don´t have any experience. Yes, even after 11 months I am still new to this motherhood thingy and indeed the job description of this gig is not easy. Yes, I am the first of my closest friends who became a mother so I haven´t had much best practice sharing with a glass of wine yet. But does that mean I don´t know what I am doing? Well, probably it does, because honestly I just do something and as long as it feels good I am happy. But what it definitely doesn´t mean is that you know how I should raise my kid just because you have “experience”.
So to the stranger in the bus with all your experience,
I thank you very much for your opinion (that I did not ask for) on how to dress my kid but guess what? I am not going to listen to it because I honestly don´t really see the use of shoes when it´s 33degrees and when the kid can´t stand or walk yet.
To the hairdresser at my best friend´s wedding with all your experience,
it´s great that you have three sons so I am sure you´re quite the expert in raising boys. However, you´re definitely not the expert when it comes to my boy (whom you´ve just met 3seconds ag o) and I don´t need your unsolicited advice on what I should and shouldn´t do when I am trying to enjoy this very special day and be a good maid of honor. Also, I don´t need you to make me feel insecure about my skills as a new mom because believe me, I can make myself doubt enough already.
To the lady at the daycare facility with all your experience,
I really appreciate that you (try to) teach the kids some English words but that doesn´t give you the expertise to opiniate on whether I talk to my son in Dutch or not. Don´t worry, in this case I did ask for advice and I did my research, but I thought it would be a bit more efficient to ask someone that knows something about this and does speak more than 1 language herself as well. Oh, and neither do I need your input on what time my son goes to bed at night, I know in Spain the evening doesn´t start before 9pm but he seems quite content with his 12h of sleep a night.
To grandparents with all your experience,
I know you have already raised a few kids which are all adults now and yes I agree, you did quite a good job but that still doesn´t mean you know better than us about this specific kid. Since you did such a good job in raising us into fine adults we can make our own decisions in how we want to raise our kid and unfortunately your only option here is to accept that.
So thanks so much to all of you for offering us your experience, but maybe we can just agree that if we need your expert advice we will ask for it?