Next up in “I Don´t Know How She Does It” we have Sara from Get Mom Balanced. She is a coach, freelance writer, blogger and stays home with her two kids. I have been following Sara online for a while already and she always seems to have it together, and as the name of her blog implies to have found a balance. I, for one, really want to know how she manages it all!
Q: Please introduce yourself, why do you think people around you might think “I don´t know how she does it”?
A: I’m Sara, mom of two boys ages 4 and 1. I work as a Mental Skills Coach (helping athletes with their mental game), am a freelance writer and blog at Get Mom Balanced. I think the multiple jobs on top of mostly staying home with my two kiddos give people the impression that I’m doing a lot (which I am!) and that I’ve got it all together (which I don’t!). Also, since my blog is all about balance, it gives the impression that I’m in balance all the time, but I’m a typical mom trying to create balance on a regular basis.
Q: What does your typical weekday look like?
A: After pre-school drop off for my 4-year old, the 1-year old and I head home. My husband works later in the day so I try to get some work done before he leaves, or if he’s gone into work, I try to get some chores done when it’s just me and the little one. After school pick up, I put the baby down for his nap, the 4-year-old gets lunch in front of the TV and I get to work! I sit next to him on the couch while he watches Sprout or a movie. Then, we have the afternoon and evening which might include a playdate or a class. After dinner and bedtimes I get back to work! I usually check social media through the day but I try not to do that too much.
Q: What is your secret to get it all done?
A: Well, secret 1 is that I don’t get it all done. And I’ve realized that I don’t need to feel bad about that. I prioritize what’s important and if I get that done, great. Anything else, I try not to stress about it. I also don’t stress about the state of my house. It does annoy me that it’s not clean(er) or that we often live in chaos but it’s not as bad to others as it is to me. So, this goes down on the list of priorities to get other things (like work), done. I think moms need to be willing to let some things go and it’s totally up to you to decide what that is. Some people won’t compromise on a messy house but I will. So, I think the secret is letting go of the idea that we can get it all done.
Q: What do you do when you feel like you´re close to a break down?
A: I tell my husband I’m about to break. And then I tell him what I need, whether that’s a break, help with something that he didn’t realize I needed help with, or communicating about what’s causing stress. Even though we’ve been together for over 10 years, he’s not a mind reader, and he works a lot too, so I need to be clear about what’s going on and what support I need.
Q: What is your guilty pleasure?
A: Reality TV. I manage to watch way too much of it. And chai tea lattes. I could drink those all day long. I just feel happier when I have a chai tea latte with me!!
Q: What keeps you motivated?
A: That changes daily, but in general, it’s my kids: raising them well and seeing them learn and grow. And also my work and my business: raising it and seeing it grow!! I personally like to work and love being creative so being a working mom makes me a better mom. It’s hard sometimes to balance but trying to create that is also a motivating factor.
Q: What is your favourite activity with your son?
A: We love dance parties at our house and when the weather is nice, walking around outside and exploring together.
Q: What would be your advice for other busy moms to get the most out of their day?
A: First off, don’t stress if you’re not accomplishing as much as you think you should!! I’ve found we put more pressure on ourselves to get things accomplished than anyone else does! So, work on prioritizing, then organizing when and how you can get those tasks accomplished. Also, don’t forget to get the family involved. Now that my son is older, he can help when I’m cleaning up. I need to remember I’m not alone in all of the “stuff” that has to get done.
Q: What else do we need to know about you?
A: Hmm…well, in case it needs repeating, just because I write about balance doesn’t mean I always get it right!! Also, the mental skills that I’ve taught athletes for years are life skills that moms can use too: calming down, staying positive and motivated: we can all develop our skills in these areas and it’s something I really love sharing with other moms.
Have you checked out the previous “I Don´t Know How She Does It”?
- I Don´t Know How She Does It – Inspiring Moms
- I Don´t Know How She Does It – with Kelsey van Kirk from The HomeLoving Wife
- I Don´t Know How She Does It – with JeeYoung Dubs from Simply + Every
- I Don´t Know How She Does It – with Lauren Berger from Working Mom Magic
- I Don´t Know How She Does It – with Aimee Gonzalez Niebuhr from MamaCentric
- I Don´t Know How She Does It – with Shannon Bennett from Memoirs of a Working Mom
- I Don´t Know How She Does It – with Erica Avery from momEplanner