Next up in “I Don´t Know How She Does It” we have Naya from Lactivist in Louboutins. This ambitious mama is currently in the process of becoming a lactation consultant requiring her to study at night and doing an apprentice during the day while taking care of her kids and running her blog. Check out how this awesome mom gets it all done.
Q: Please introduce yourself, why do you think people around you might think “I don´t know how she does it”?
A: I’m Naya, mom to two little boys ages 6 and 2.5 and wife to the techy man of my dreams. We live in Texas where I am currently finishing up schooling to become a lactation consultant. I do schoolwork at night after the kids are in bed and spend my days as an apprentice for established lactation consultants. I also write the blog Lactivist in Louboutins.
Q: What does your typical weekday look like?
A: I am up by 6 to help get my older son off to school by 7:30. My husband drops him off and heads off to work. Once they leave, I make myself breakfast, get dressed and try to spend some time with the toddler before I drop him off to daycare. Then I am off to see moms and babies for the day. My days start between 9 and 10 and often go until 4 or later. We see anywhere from 2-4 moms and babies in a day, either in their homes or in our office space. I pick up the kids on my way home around 4:45 and let them play and/or have some screen time while I get dinner started. My husband gets home around 6 and we eat dinner. We try to eat together as a family, but the kids are often hungry before 6, so sometimes they’re in the midst of dinner when Daddy gets home. We do the bath time-bedtime routine and they are snug in bed by 8. I spend a little time with my husband and while doing schoolwork. Some nights it’s half watching a TV show while I work on charts of the clients we saw that day, other nights it’s putting on headphones and watching a lecture while doing homework. My husband heads off to bed by 11, but I’m a night owl! I’m most productive while the rest of the house is asleep. Sometimes I continue to do schoolwork, but every now and then I try to write a new blog post. I work until 1, sometimes later, and then crawl into bed. I’m usually asleep the second my head hits the pillow!
Q: What is your secret to get it all done?
A: Having a routine helps me so much! My toddler recently started daycare so I could finish my clinical hours. Our world was pretty chaotic for a while until we found a rhythm and schedule that worked for everyone. Luckily, I think we found something that works! It also helps me to write things down in my planner: goals, appointments, clinical hours, everything! Even though there are apps for phones that can keep track of all of this, I do better when I have a written list. Plus there’s something VERY satisfying about crossing an item off my to do list!
Q: What do you do when you feel like you´re close to a break down?
A: I let myself freak out a little. I cry, yell at nobody, and get worked up for a short period of time, and then I feel better. I used to distract myself with something else (like exercise or meditation), but I find letting it out to be much more cathartic. Once I have my mini freak out, I am able to focus on what I have to do and create a plan to tackle whatever is going on. While running or yoga may work for others, f-bombs and tears work for me.
Q: What is your guilty pleasure?
A: Bad reality TV. It is mindless, lets me relax and destress a bit, and is a fun escape from my reality. I hate that I love it so much!
Q: What keeps you motivated?
A: I have been working towards my goal of sitting for the International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) exam since 2012. This is the year I finally do it! Seeing that prize that I’ve been working for being SO CLOSE has been incredibly motivating for me.
Q: What is your favourite activity with your kids?
A: We love to have dance parties in our living room. Whether listening to old rock songs or Motown, my kids and I love to cut loose in the living room. There’s lots of laughing and booty shaking involved. Everyone has a great time!
Q: What would be your advice for other busy moms to get the most out of their day?
A: Prioritize what you want to get done. Of the 3 million things a busy mom “needs” to do, there’s typically a much smaller number of things that truly have to be accomplished for her home, family, and job to function properly. By tackling those items first, she’s able to focus on the other smaller tasks that help life to run smoothly.
Q: What else do we need to know about you?
A: I get asked how I do it all, and I don’t really have a good answer to that question. The truth is that most of the time, I DON’T do it all – I only do what I can. By giving myself some grace, it’s easy for me to pick myself up when things don’t get done or life doesn’t work out the way I imagined that it would.
Have you checked out the previous “I Don´t Know How She Does It”?
- I Don´t Know How She Does It – Inspiring Moms
- I Don´t Know How She Does It – with Kelsey van Kirk from The HomeLoving Wife
- I Don´t Know How She Does It – with JeeYoung Dubs from Simply + Every
- I Don´t Know How She Does It – with Lauren Berger from Working Mom Magic
- I Don´t Know How She Does It – with Aimee Gonzalez Niebuhr from MamaCentric
- I Don´t Know How She Does It – with Shannon Bennett from Memoirs of a Working Mom
- I Don´t Know How She Does It – with Erica Avery from momEplanner
- I Don´t Know How She Does It – with Sara Robinson from Get Mom Balanced
- I Don´t Know How She Does It – with Victoria from A Modern Homestead