There you are, as a first-time-daycare-mom dropping off your little “baby” for someone else to take care of him for the rest of the day. Yes, you have been postponing this moment for a year so maybe he´s not so baby anymore, but still he´s your baby how on earth is a stranger going to take care of him?
How are they going to be able to take care of a whole bunch of babies? I don´t even manage taking care of one! What will they do when he´s sad? Will he hate us for leaving him there? Do these after-crying-hiccups in the afternoon mean I made the wrong choice? Just some random thought of the first-time-daycare-mom.
When leaving after dropping him off the drama starts, seeing how your crying baby gets carried inside. And first-time-daycare-mom´s heart breaks into pieces right there and then. The first days you´re only focused on your own daycare drama and think that the drama and tears are caused by the fact that it´s the first time you´re leaving him not with family or close friends but with “strangers” and a lot of other kids. However, then you realize that every single kid that goes in there those first days after the summer holidays makes a drama. Crying, screaming and, for those that can already speak, shout for mom to not go away. So it´s not just us first-timers that are having a hard time and where hearts break when leaving, it´s every single one of us. The kid that is new and the kid that has already gone to daycare for two years, both of them have to get used to daycare for the first time or just again after a long summer break.
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Maybe only the really little ones don´t have such drama, the babies that are maybe not very aware yet of what´s happening. Which makes the first-time-daycare-mom question her decision to keep the little guy at home for the first year. Would it have been easier on both of us if we would have done daycare straight after my maternity leave was over? (Maybe for the bichin yes, for me most probably not, 4 months versus 14 months is quite a big difference!)
Will the daycare drama get better?
So yeah, I guess the drama is part of the process for all of us. And after a couple of days I do already notice it´s getting better (for both of us!), today he went in without any crying (sorry for the moms around me but I was very relieved we were drama free this morning, despite being the only ones) and when we picked up he was also calm and smiley. And no hiccups for the rest of the day, so I consider that a small win! First-time-daycare-mom is slowly getting some experience.
How is or was your first time leaving your baby behind at daycare or school?
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