I was always a fan of co-sleeping and most nights the bichin ends up in our bed at some point. We started with co-sleeping and then slowly he went to his own crib for longer periods. Nowadays he starts in his own bed in his room but if he wakes up during the second half of the night or the early morning hours we often take him with us hoping to get a bit more of sleep. This rhythm we had quite well established at home and there never were much problems getting him to sleep in his own bed. Until we came back from our last trip to the Netherlands…
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For the past months we have been traveling back and forth a lot between Spain and the Netherlands. Since my dad was very sick we were flying back home almost every 2 weeks, which was tiring but definitely the best and right thing to do. So during the bichin´s first year there was quite some time we spent away from our home and sometimes even away from his dad. Quite some nights in a different bed for both of us and quite some nights where I had the big bed for myself if C couldn´t make that specific trip.
During the last month when my dad got worse I spend more and more time in the Netherlands and for a variety of reasons the bichin mostly slept with me in the big bed. So obviously when we came back to Spain last week, he wasn´t too happy to be demoted to his own room and bed again. It has been taking some nights (and a lot of patience) to get to sleep in his own crib.
What I realized during those nights of patience is that maybe the “variety of reasons” were just an excuse of the real reason. I claimed it was easier to make him sleep i
n the big bed and since often my mom or her husband had to put him to bed since I was with my dad I thought that would save them some hassle. And since I was tired from everything that was happening with my dad I also found it easier to not have to get up every time he woke up but could just give him the dummy or his lovey back by reaching next to me. But honestly, maybe I didn´t want to be alone in the big bed and enjoyed this little guy next to me who gave me some cuddles during the night and woke me up with tiny hands touching my face. Maybe I needed a bit of comfort and I used the bichin for it. Can´t really blame him he had a hard time getting back to his own crib can I?