On Friday I was working from home but C had the day off due to a local bank holiday. At some point he took the bichin out for a walk and when he came back he told me how two older ladies came to him to compliment him with the amazing thing he was doing. So I asked him what amazing thing he was doing to attract the attention of random ladies on the street.
He was taking his son for a walk. And that´s what the mothers usually do right, so they were very impressed that he made the effort to go out with his son. Excuse me, what exactly is so amazing here? Compliment a FATHER because he is spending time with his SON? Ok ok, they were older ladies so this might be a generation difference, after all in their time it probably was pretty amazing if the fathers did anything apart from working.
But the thing is that it´s not just older people that seem to think I won the first prize in the lottery because C happens to also take care of the bichin. Once one of the managers at work told me he thought it was quite impressive that C was babysitting every morning before he would start work at midday. Babysitting? It´s his own kid! I don´t think you can really call it babysitting when you´re taking care of your own offspring! Also does anyone ever call it babysitting when the mother takes care of the littlies? Is a SAHM a full-time babysitter then? Or am I a project manager and a babysitter after hours? No of course not, it´s only babysitting when the father makes the big effort to take care of his kids.
Seriously? As far as I know, it took both of us to make the bichin. It takes two to tango. So it also takes two to take care of that bichin that we both really wanted. Although in most countries raising and taking care of the kids still seems to be mainly the woman´s territory, in Spain it might even go to a whole other level. The man is the boss, does the hard work and when he comes home from his very difficult job he can´t d eal with the household or taking care of the kids. Or as they used to say in the Netherlands: the father is the guy who comes to cut the meat on Sunday. Let´s just forget about the fact that some women also have a full-time job. Yep it´s 2016 but in that respect we´re probably 50 years behind here…
So yeah looking around me in Spain and seeing that most guys don´t do much (or make that “don’t do anything”) in the house or taking care of the kids (yes they will go out or play with them, but changing diapers, preparing food, giving them a bath… no way), makes me think that maybe I did win the first prize in the lottery because I seem to have the only Spanish guy that does do more than his fair share in taking care of the bichin. And of course I am very happy with that but still, sorry but for me that´s the normal thing to do for your own kid….